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时间: 2008.11.05 23:30:00 
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时间: 2008.11.01 21:52:00 
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恩,我觉得我还是比较适合写叽歪式博客,不用构思篇幅,想到啥写啥,不过这样会导致我的思绪更加杂乱无章的face

我最近觉得毕业是我文字语言的分水岭

以前是小感性小幽怨

现在是动不动就想来点火爆的

为什么会有这样的转变呢?

罪魁祸首肯定是柏邦妮老师以及无数媒体女青年的博客

还有每天在我耳边飞来飞去的@#$%^^&*(&%&@(#

我是如此容易被影响以至于这几日耳根清净反倒很不习惯了

说回媒体女青年的博客,我觉得真是一致惊人的相像,插科打诨无所不能

看久了就知道媒体圈里多半是优秀女青年和优秀男同志

这帮女青年每日奔波于这座城市的大街小巷,跟各种嘴脸的人对话,听各种荤段子素段子,看各种牛鬼蛇神的目光从敬仰到不屑一顾,没个准点儿睡觉,半夜准潜伏在MSN上写稿子。没事骂骂领导,八八明星,在选题会上拼拼段子。一个再怎么标准的文学女青年不出几年也就出落得刀逼刀逼了。没办法,这行就需要你狠准快,够强势够能干。

其实我觉得这种转变挺好的,既娱己又娱人,缓解压力的同时又让大家看得很爽。反正小家碧玉型女子在这个时代吃不开,在媒体圈更没得混。要么躲起来写写书评诌诌食评还成。

我真是狠崇拜柏邦妮JJ,她没比咱大几岁

就像她说的,像她这种每天写5条博客的人,还有什么遗言未尽

看看她这种spontaneous high的文字就觉得还有人对生活如此有热情真好

大部分人干完活都已经是泄了气的皮球了

所以我们需要媒体女青年们帮我们打打气

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时间: 2008.10.15 19:56:00 
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J.K. Rowling, author of the best-selling Harry Potter book series, delivers her Commencement Address, “The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination,” at the Annual Meeting of the Harvard Alumni Association.
 
Text as prepared follows.
Copyright of JK Rowling, June 2008

President Faust, members of the Harvard Corporation and the Board of Overseers, members of the faculty, proud parents, and, above all, graduates.

The first thing I would like to say is ‘thank you.’ Not only has Harvard given me an extraordinary honour, but the weeks of fear and nausea I’ve experienced at the thought of giving this commencement address have made me lose weight. A win-win situation! Now all I have to do is take deep breaths, squint at the red banners and fool myself into believing I am at the world’s best-educated Harry Potter convention.

Delivering a commencement address is a great responsibility; or so I thought until I cast my mind back to my own graduation. The commencement speaker that day was the distinguished British philosopher Baroness Mary Warnock. Reflecting on her speech has helped me enormously in writing this one, because it turns out that I can’t remember a single word she said. This liberating discovery enables me to proceed without any fear that I might inadvertently influence you to abandon promising careers in business, law or politics for the giddy delights of becoming a gay wizard. 

You see? If all you remember in years to come is the ‘gay wizard’ joke, I’ve still come out ahead of Baroness Mary Warnock. Achievable goals: the first step towards personal improvement.

Actually, I have wracked my mind and heart for what I ought to say to you today. I have asked myself what I wish I had known at my own graduation, and what important lessons I have learned in the 21 years that has expired between that day and this. 

I have come up with two answers. On this wonderful day when we are gathered together to celebrate your academic success, I have decided to talk to you about the benefits of failure. And as you stand on the threshold of what is sometimes called ‘real life’, I want to extol the crucial importance of imagination. 

These might seem quixotic or paradoxical choices, but please bear with me. 

Looking back at the 21-year-old that I was at graduation, is a slightly uncomfortable experience for the 42-year-old that she has become. Half my lifetime ago, I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself, and what those closest to me expected of me. 

I was convinced that the only thing I wanted to do, ever, was to write novels. However, my parents, both of whom came from impoverished backgrounds and neither of whom had been to college, took the view that my overactive imagination was an amusing personal quirk that could never pay a mortgage, or secure a pension. 

They had hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to study English Literature. A compromise was reached that in retrospect satisfied nobody, and I went up to study Modern Languages. Hardly had my parents’ car rounded the corner at the end of the road than I ditched German and scuttled off down the Classics corridor.

I cannot remember telling my parents that I was studying Classics; they might well have found out for the first time on graduation day. Of all subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the keys to an executive bathroom.

I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools. 

What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure. 

At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in my life and that of my peers.

I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartbreak. Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment. 

However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average person’s idea of success, so high have you already flown academically.

Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew. 

Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default. 

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above rubies. 

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more to me than any qualification I ever earned.

Given a time machine or a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes. 

You might think that I chose my second theme, the importance of imagination, because of the part it played in rebuilding my life, but that is not wholly so. Though I will defend the value of bedtime stories to my last gasp, I have learned to value imagination in a much broader sense. Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans whose experiences we have never shared.

One of the greatest formative experiences of my life preceded Harry Potter, though it informed much of what I subsequently wrote in those books. This revelation came in the form of one of my earliest day jobs. Though I was sloping off to write stories during my lunch hours, I paid the rent in my early 20s by working in the research department at Amnesty International’s headquarters in London. 

There in my little office I read hastily scribbled letters smuggled out of totalitarian regimes by men and women who were risking imprisonment to inform the outside world of what was happening to them. I saw photographs of those who had disappeared without trace, sent to Amnesty by their desperate families and friends. I read the testimony of torture victims and saw pictures of their injuries. I opened handwritten, eye-witness accounts of summary trials and executions, of kidnappings and rapes. 

Many of my co-workers were ex-political prisoners, people who had been displaced from their homes, or fled into exile, because they had the temerity to think independently of their government. Visitors to our office included those who had come to give information, or to try and find out what had happened to those they had been forced to leave behind.

I shall never forget the African torture victim, a young man no older than I was at the time, who had become mentally ill after all he had endured in his homeland. He trembled uncontrollably as he spoke into a video camera about the brutality inflicted upon him. He was a foot taller than I was, and seemed as fragile as a child. I was given the job of escorting him to the Underground Station afterwards, and this man whose life had been shattered by cruelty took my hand with exquisite courtesy, and wished me future happiness.

And as long as I live I shall remember walking along an empty corridor and suddenly hearing, from behind a closed door, a scream of pain and horror such as I have never heard since. The door opened, and the researcher poked out her head and told me to run and make a hot drink for the young man sitting with her. She had just given him the news that in retaliation for his own outspokenness against his country’s regime, his mother had been seized and executed.

Every day of my working week in my early 20s I was reminded how incredibly fortunate I was, to live in a country with a democratically elected government, where legal representation and a public trial were the rights of everyone. 

Every day, I saw more evidence about the evils humankind will inflict on their fellow humans, to gain or maintain power. I began to have nightmares, literal nightmares, about some of the things I saw, heard and read.

And yet I also learned more about human goodness at Amnesty International than I had ever known before.

Amnesty mobilises thousands of people who have never been tortured or imprisoned for their beliefs to act on behalf of those who have. The power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they do not know, and will never meet. My small participation in that process was one of the most humbling and inspiring experiences of my life.

Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s minds, imagine themselves into other people’s places.

Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise. 

And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid. 

What is more, those who choose not to empathise may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy. 

One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search of something I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch:
What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. 

That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people’s lives simply by existing. 

But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.

If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.

I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able to turn in times of trouble, friends who have been kind enough not to sue me when I’ve used their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister. 

So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:
As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.
I wish you all very good lives.
Thank you very much.

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时间: 2008.10.11 15:13:00 
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校内上有人推荐《Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story》,讲的是一个小姑娘的绝处逢生。母亲吸毒酗酒,感染上爱滋后和姐姐一起回了外公家,那个外公曾经强奸了母亲的姐姐,可是为什么母亲没有受害呢?也许,这只是一个善意的谎言。Liz没有一起走,父亲的不闻不问,让她从此变成了一个流浪女孩:在地铁里睡觉,捡垃圾堆里的食物,在收容所饱受摧残。

直到母亲的葬礼,她趴在那个简易的木质棺材上很久很久。也许这是一种暗示,旧的一页翻过去,新的一页要重新开始了。

我们都知道时间紧迫,人生短暂,可是我们有多少人感受到了这种压力呢?昨天,和达令出去散心的时候碰到了一位老奶奶,因为迈不上台阶直唤我们帮忙。应该是得了脑动脉阻塞之类的病,下身不受控制,髋部会不由自主地扭动。老奶奶真得很倔,扶她上了台阶之后,一个劲地怕耽误我们时间,不让我们搀她,又心急火燎地要快点回家。我们执意送她回去,几百米的路足足走了半个多小时,她走一会儿就满头大汗,右腿基本上是拖着前进的,经常会站不住。一路上跟我们说了好多,家人不让她出来,可是她非要帮女儿交电话费,她才六十多岁,她觉得自己一定会好起来的,她不想自己变得没用。

不光这个,最近还有很多事时常提醒自己要珍惜时间。美剧里的女人们真的老了,地铁里的女人们脸上都有皱纹了,好久不见的爸妈的身体真的不如从前了。Liz说,我现在17岁,我不想等我念完高中的时候是21岁。她用2年念完了4年的书。

我们中的大部分都衣食无忧,有温暖的家,因此上很多机会并不会大幅度地改变我们现在的生活,或者说这些机会可有可无,得到了不觉得珍贵,失去了不觉得可惜。所以,我们渴望得不够强烈,付出得不够彻底,得到的不如所愿。

从小到大,很多事很多人都告诉我们要平常心对待。我以为,做人的确需要平常心,可是,做一件事你能达到的完美程度多半取决于你有多少希望它达成的欲望。

也许,我们真的应该放手搏一搏,看看生活到底能有多糟糕,我们到底有多少欲望和激情。

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时间: 2008.10.10 09:19:00 
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同屋的女人一觉醒来,发现这么多年的感情原来是一场骗局,信誓旦旦指望着的最后一个港湾原来早就被别人占领了。她找那个男人对质,哭天抢地地流泪心疼,破口大骂。这是我最不愿意见到的画面,也许我只愿接受恋爱里那些甜蜜快乐的回忆。不爱了受伤了便走开,暗自抚慰伤口也总比撕破脸皮好。我以为,至少还可以是朋友,其实是我从来都爱得不够深切。我总是从别人的故事里听到伤害,听到欺骗,听到这个大千世界里无奇不有的男男女女之间复杂交错的关系。有时候想想,能够被骗也是一种幸福,至少有人关心你的感受。如果人家连骗你的脑子都不想动了,你存在与否又有什么关系,与他何干。

我真的不是一个很好的感情顾问,不会安慰人。说来说去竟然都只是,你想吃些什么,或者我们出去散散心吧。我能做的也只有这些了吧。老是从别人的故事里吸取教训会不会长得比较慢一些呢?

超,今儿我陪你!
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